Take on your own power and be FREE of the tensions and worries that are wearing you down right now. You DO NOT have to live with these operating in your thoughts or energy field. But, getting rid of them does require your commitment to making the change and staying with it until it sticks!
These are the tensions that run in the background of your experience all the time, consciously and unconsciously. Their ongoing churning can can sap your power, drain your batteries with the constant background noise of low-level worry or shame. On a large scale, these can derail your day or stall your plans, even stall them indefinitely. Even when you're successful, capable, talented, these tensions can hover around you making you wonder -- When will I feel secure in my talent, my gosh, HOW talented do I have to be before I get to feel "safe"? When will I get to feel "I've arrived"?
I call these heart's-tensions. They don't rise to the level of clinical "anxiety", but at the same time, they constantly tell you you're wrong somehow. They reside in your heart center and reflect tension about the OK-ness of being you, the acceptability of your role and capability in the world. Heart's-tensions include things such as:
Doubt about your own ability.
Doubt about your right to reach for more, even when more would benefit you and everyone around you.
Feelings of worthlessness no matter how talented you are or how great the results are you produce in your professional sphere.
Believing that you can never be more than what you are now, no matter how hard you try.
Being told, or believing, that you are bad, wrong, or selfish for reaching for your own inner power and stability.
Being told, or believing, that you are bad, wrong, or selfish for not staying what someone else wants you to be (parent, boss, partner, friend), even if that self they want you to be no longer fits YOU.
Heart's-tensions hide out waiting to strike you like a blow to the chest. They do this when you start to go beyond the hidden rules you've agreed to let limit your power. If you know your chakras, you can even feel this aching energy hit you in the heart chakra or originate from there. Your thoughts flood with the thoughts and messages associated with the powerless state - "I am worthless. Who am I to try to change this? My parents/partner/boss thinks I'm selfish to want to be more. Am I really that bad for wanting advancement?"
"Heart's-tensions hide out waiting to strike you like a blow to the chest. They do this when you start to go beyond the hidden rules you've agreed to let limit your power." Click to tweet.
You don't have to live with these worries running you down!
Power Practice: Recoding Heart's-Tensions
Pick one heart's-tension, one that you experience repeatedly. It could be a message of worthlessness, or of the supposed selfishness others feel about a wise change you know you NEED to make to grow into the next version of WHO YOU ARE.
This heart's-tension isn't you. It's merely a belief you have that came from somewhere, often from childhood before the age of 7, when most survival strategies are formed. Think of it as a line of "code" in your inner "operating system".
The Power Recoding Tools (see diagram) are ways to shift into your higher-powered self that encompass practical, intellectual, energy, and "magical" non-logical tools. There are five, but for this short exercise we'll use the first two.
Whole-Body Shift. You simply deciding to shift into your powerful identity begins to create quantum energy responses that re-create everything in and around you. In essence, when you decide you ARE this person, everything around you shifts in response to this change.
Intellectual Tools. Includes your thoughts, your choices of self-talk, and some journaling and reflecting to understand why this heart's-tension is affecting you and where it comes from. (Artifact of childhood? Unreasonable expectation of others?) When you can UNDERSTAND it, you can better DEFUSE it.
Practice - make a WHOLE BODY SHIFT. Who are you as your strong, loving, wise Power Avatar? Make a mental image of who this amazing you is. Now, SHIFT into that person who no longer feels this tension. Just "put them on" like you'd put on a jacket or coat. You should feel an immediate positive shift in Power, Perception, and Peace, because to "put them on" like this actually reflects an identity change at the quantum level. For this person that you are, this heart's-tension no longer exists. You know your worth. You can see that you need to follow your path, and that parents/partner/boss need to come along with you for the ride, or let you go, but either way, YOUR path is calling.
You may find you slip back into old habits when you're not focused on the Whole-Body Shift. No worries, just keep gently putting your power avatar back on whenever you can. You'll get better and better at it over time.
Practice - use your INTELLECTUAL TOOLS. Where does this heart's-tension come from? Is this expectation reasonable? Journal on where it comes from, but don't overthink it. Just get some intellectual distance by understanding the past story arc of this feeling. If this heart's-tension expresses in your self-talk, begin to say the supportive opposite, even if it "feels weird" inside. It will "feel weird" because it's not familiar. "I'm worth knowing. I'm worth loving. I LOVE being worth it." Do some future pacing, envision yourself really feeling success, worth, and your own talent. Tell yourself, "Wow, this is what feeling 'worth it' feels like... feels so good!"
These low-level tensions are a lot like low-level food-based inflammation, which I discuss elsewhere. You don't realize how good you can feel until they're gone. But when you do, you realize how much they were keeping you down and sapping your energy all day long.
Play with these and explore! The more you "pop" yourself into different, more powerful states even momentarily ("popup power"? :) ), the better you get at defusing these heart's tensions when they occur. And, the more you do this, the more you realize that you do NOT have to be a victim to what these thoughts are telling you about yourself.
Believe you are powerful, because you are.
Keep Growing,
